"No" Is a Complete Sentence

I love that quote by Anne Lamott!

The word "no" is an underutilized tool when working on physical and energetic boundaries and it is absolutely appropriate to employ it as a stand-alone sentence.

There is never any real need ever to explain yourself. If people are respecting your boundaries, then they will accept your very complete answer of "no" with regards to any request. No need to take ownership of their beliefs and perceptions about you. You stand firm in your self-knowledge and loving relationship with your own self.

You can add some spiritual backup when needed.

Depending on the boundary you wish to establish, you can visualize a particular color to give your answer the necessary vibe.

Red = physical boundary

Orange = emotional boundary

Green = relational boundary

White = spiritual boundary

The next step would be to:

1. Internally acknowledge that you are a powerful and loving spiritual being.

2. Internally acknowledge that the other person is also a developed and loving spiritual being.

3. Call upon the presence of the Divine and watch the energy shift.

This advice and information was adapted from Cyndi Dale's book on Energetic Boundaries: How to Stay Protected and Connected in Work, Love, and Life. I highly recommend the read.